Date a girl who thinks too much

For nobody in particular, about nobody in particular.

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You know the type. You'll find her hesitating in elevators and at doors, wondering whether to push or pull, maybe in a nice restaurant, wrinkling her forehead at the mind-boggling amount of choices on the menu. Don't sit down just yet: she might get freaked out. Smile at her from another table and then walk over, politely asking if you can have a seat. She might have a slight breakdown at this point, but you'll sit anyway. Help her choose what she thinks will be good: be prepared to do this a lot.

Date a girl who thinks too much, because she'll think about you a lot. She might obsess a little, but don't worry, it just shows that she cares. Date her because she'll be clingy and you'll feel needed, and also because you need someone who plans your birthday and anniversary and Valentine's day about four months in advance.

She might read more into every text that you send her, so be careful what you type and say. But once you get to know her well, she'll stop, and both of you can speculate about what other people mean instead.

There will be fights and arguments when she misunderstands you and is hurt, and won't listen to your explanations. There will be tears and recriminations, but it'll all be better once you've finally explained yourself. There may be more tears, as she tells you miserably what a horrible person she considers herself for not listening to you in the first place. This will, no doubt, soothe your stinging pride.

Ask her to marry you. She may not be sure about taking the plunge. She may even change her mind in the middle of your engagement; in fact, she'll do it several times, veering back and forth between ecstatic and doubtful. It'll leave you frustrated and insecure. Once she makes up her mind, however, she'll throw herself into the preparations with a determination that will astound the people around her. She'll want everything to be perfect: on your wedding day, she'll become miserable if everything's not just the way she imagined it, and you'll have to console her.

Date her, because if you have kids(this will require another long, long deliberation), they'll be the apples of her eye. She will worry about every little cough and sniffle, and will drive you up the wall with doctor's appointments and parent-teacher meetings. But your kids will get attached--maybe a little too attached, so that it'll be hard for them to live on their own when they grow up.

All of this may sound like a lot of work for relatively less joy, but isn't that what life is about? Relationships can't be perfect, and you'll find many examples of that as the years pass.

And finally, date her because when you realise that she's thought so much, about everything, your relationship and your lives, and also about you and chosen you to invest so much thought and effort in; you may come to find that you don't regret dating a girl who thinks too much at all.